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no-one wants to talk about it and the more you don’t, the more you have it
in order for connection to happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen (vulnerable)
ISN’T IT A BIT LIKE WHAT THE imp SAYS IN GAME OF THRONES ABOUT EMBRACING YOUR DISABILITY AND FLAUNTING IT, SO THAT NO ONE CAN HURT YOU ANYMORE?!
people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy; they:
had the courage to be imperfect
let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were
fully embraced vulnerability
talked about saying “I love you” first
research is “control and predict data” but the results pointed in the opposite direction -> breakdown / spiritual awakening
we numb vulnerability
we are the most obese, indebted, addicted and medicated adult cohort in US history
the problem is we cannot selectively numb negative emotions
we make uncertain things certain -> fear, religion, no dialogue
blame=a way to discharge pain and discomfort
we perfect but we set ourselves up for failure
to kids: you are imperfect and wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging
we pretend there are no adverse effects for others
let ourselves be seen
love with our whole hearts even though there’s no guarantee
practice gratitude and joy
believe we’re enough -> we stop screaming & start listening
Dr. Brené Brown is a researcher professor at the University of Houston, Graduate College of Social Work, where she has spent the past ten years studying a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness, posing the questions: How do we engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to embrace our imperfections and to recognize that we are enough — that we are worthy of love, belonging and joy? Brené is the author of I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (2007) and the forthcoming books, The Gifts of Imperfection (2010) and Wholehearted: Spiritual Adventures in Falling Apart, Growing Up, and Finding Joy ( 2011).