TEDxHouston - Brené Brown (by TEDxTalks)
I <3 some of the ideas presented:
- stories are data with soul
- “I’m a scientist story-teller”
- if you can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist
- lean into the discomfort of the [social] work
- connection is why we’re here
- shame is the fear of disconnection
- no-one wants to talk about it and the more you don’t, the more you have it
- in order for connection to happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen (vulnerable)
ISN’T IT A BIT LIKE WHAT THE imp SAYS IN GAME OF THRONES ABOUT EMBRACING YOUR DISABILITY AND FLAUNTING IT, SO THAT NO ONE CAN HURT YOU ANYMORE?!
people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy; they:
- had the courage to be imperfect
- let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were
- fully embraced vulnerability
- talked about saying “I love you” first
post-breakdown
- research is “control and predict data” but the results pointed in the opposite direction -> breakdown / spiritual awakening
- we numb vulnerability
- we are the most obese, indebted, addicted and medicated adult cohort in US history
- the problem is we cannot selectively numb negative emotions
- we make uncertain things certain -> fear, religion, no dialogue
- blame=a way to discharge pain and discomfort
- we perfect but we set ourselves up for failure
- to kids: you are imperfect and wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging
- we pretend there are no adverse effects for others
- let ourselves be seen
- love with our whole hearts even though there’s no guarantee
- practice gratitude and joy
- believe we’re enough -> we stop screaming & start listening
Dr. Brené Brown is a researcher professor at the University of Houston, Graduate College of Social Work, where she has spent the past ten years studying a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness, posing the questions: How do we engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to embrace our imperfections and to recognize that we are enough — that we are worthy of love, belonging and joy? Brené is the author of I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (2007) and the forthcoming books, The Gifts of Imperfection (2010) and Wholehearted: Spiritual Adventures in Falling Apart, Growing Up, and Finding Joy ( 2011).
